If it does hurt, there could be something wrong. Many of us grew up believing that sex hurts. From literature to friends, it was always the same impression we were given. The general consensus was that intercourse was definitely going to hurt the first time and maybe for a while afterwards as well. It was probably for this very reason that many of us don't question any pain associated with sex. We believe it to be completely normal and just deal with it as best as we can. If it does hurt, there could be something wrong - physically or psychologically.
Clinically, painful intercourse is known as dyspareunia. Though there have been cases of it in men, it is far more common in women. There can be many causes for it, including not enough lubrication, infections, skin disorders, vaginismus a condition in which the walls of the vagina spasm , injuries, trauma and even an abnormal development of the hymen.
You can reach out to your doctor to pinpoint the cause of dyspareunia and then begin treatment. In the meantime, some sex positions can prove to be less painful than others.
Instead of spooning after sex, try it during the act. Lie on your side with your partner directly behind you. Bend both of your knees a bit. The position makes sure that the penetration is shallower than normal as the buttocks provide some cushioning. Being on top gives you all the control - but also be prepared to do all the work, unlike missionary. Have your partner lie down on the bed and place yourself on top of them. Instead of the regular cowgirl, try keeping your legs more straight than bent. You can also lean your torso forward a bit to do this.
Again, this will ensure shallower penetration but also stimulate the clitoris. Another variation you could try is to put hard pillows under each of your knees. This can help reduce the amount you bounce and could prove to be less painful.
You get to decide the speed, the intensity and the power behind the thrusts. This is also a position that men enjoy a lot so it can serve both of you well. Have your partner sit down with his legs in front of him, slightly bent at the knees. Now sit in his lap with your legs draped over his legs. The angle of entrance also shifts a bit - this could either help with the pain or make things worse, depending on your specific situation.
Just be mindful, take it slow, stop as soon as things become uncomfortable, and alter the position as needed. The doggy position provides similar cushioning to spooning, but the angle of entry might need to be manipulated to find the one that is most comfortable for you. Be patient while trying to do this. Move around a bit, try three or four variations to figure out what feels best. Health articles in Firstpost are written by myUpchar. At myUpchar, researchers and journalists work with doctors to bring you information on all things health.
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